Friday, 13 September 2019
Life Is a Treasure Hunt
Once upon a time there was an unusually optimistic little boy named Max. Max's parents were worried that he was actually incapable of seeing the world like a normal kid, so they decided to take him to a psychiatrist to see if she could talk some sense into him.
The psychiatrist was getting frustrated with Max's absolute refusal to perceive negativity and was ready to try anything. Christmas was coming and she made a wild suggestion to Max's parents. Instead of gifts this year, she encouraged them to fill the back yard with horse manure. Not knowing what else to do, his parents agreed.
On Christmas morning, they were shocked to see Max, instead of being horrified, actually shrieking with delight.
"Why are you so happy, Max?" his parents demanded. "Can't you see? With all this manure, there must be a pony here somewhere!"
This is an extreme example, to be sure, but I do strongly believe and continue to prove that:
Everything either IS a gift or it HAS a gift!
We all love the experiences that immediately feel like a gift - the financial windfall, the perfect job offer, the date with the wonderful someone. It's the other experiences - the ones that are masquerading as something unwanted - that require a shift in perception.
What if you truly believed that the very unwanted situation you are experiencing is actually a gift in disguise?
If you really believed there was a gift waiting for you, would you start looking for it? Would you make it fun? Would you turn it into a treasure hunt?
Everything changes when you align with this new perspective. You no longer give in to suffering and despair. You're too busy looking for and finding treasures!
Instead of responding from a low vibration:
*"Why me?"
*"I never get a break."
*"Why can't I ever get what I want?"
Maintain your power by sincerely asking:
*"What's the gift in this situation?"
*"What's perfect about this?"
*"What's the wonderful thing that will come of this?"
This is what the Buddhists call turning poison into medicine.
The Law of Attraction teaches that we attract what we focus on. If we give into a mindset of "life sucks," we will experience one sucky experience after another.
However, if we choose the mindset of "life is good!" and maintain the willingness to find the gift in everything, we will experience a steady stream of good times.
Life is a treasure hunt, so no matter what happens, let's focus all our resources on finding the treasure. And, like Max, we'll be happy and excited knowing there must be a pony here somewhere!
Everything either IS a gift or it HAS a gift!
Kate Corbin is a Law of Attraction Coach and the creator of Gold Star Coaching. Both her coaching practice and her three eBooks - "Dining at the Cosmic Cafe, How to Be and Do and Have Whatever You Desire;" "Manifesting from the Inside Out with the Law of Attraction;" and "Think and Grow Thin with the Law of Attraction" - are designed to empower you to truly live the life of your dreams. To contact Kate and download a free copy of her eBook "Magical Musings on the LOA," visit Gold Star Coaching.
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When Your Present Life Isn't Working
What can you do when you believe, that your present life isn't working properly for you-or that it isn't working at all?
This may be a tough question, but it's an important one.
Symptoms that suggest you're not satisfied with your present life include agonizing over your past, feeling sorry for yourself, complaining that "you didn't do this or that," and repeating your old failures.
After taking all the above indicators into consideration, there's one more that's a sure sign you aren't satisfied with your present life: your excuse for not making any positive changes.
Let me tell you something. Whenever people ask me to tell them about my previous traumatic experiences, such as how my family escaped war in my homeland, I refuse to tell them anything.
Am I being rude by not responding to their request? Not at all. I'm protecting myself from allowing a past traumatic experience to ruin my present life.
When people start to talk about previous negative or traumatic experiences, they actually bring those past traumas into the present. In those moments, they live in the past.
Is dragging negative past experiences into the present helpful? No, it isn't.
Bringing a bad, sad, or traumatic experience into the present also brings very strong emotional charges that are connected to that experience.
Of course, if you've had a strong emotional experience, the neural circuits of your brain will remember it forever. Each experience is accompanied by strong emotions, either positive or negative, and each negative experience leads to the release of "bad chemicals" (stress hormones).
When you talk about your past traumatic experience, you're reliving it in the present time, thereby releasing the same stressful hormones twenty or more years after the event has occurred. Your brain doesn't know the difference between the real-life event and your memory of that event, which is creating the same emotions.
The problem begins when people think and feel about the past and do nothing about the present.
You can't change your past. You can change only your present. However, notice that I didn't say you can change everything in your present life.
However, if you believe that something's wrong with your present life, try to change it if you can.
Don't dwell on the past while making excuses about life not being "fair." (Whoever said that life is fair, anyway?) It's just one more excuse for doing nothing to change your present life.
Start to change your life by changing your neurochemistry; you can do that simply by changing the way you think about things in your life.
Remember: Your thoughts and feelings create your present.
When you break the cycle of negativity that surrounds you, your present life will work for you.
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Wednesday, 11 September 2019
Self-Sabotage: Is Your Inner Child Sabotaging Your Life?
One thing that someone may find is that even though they want to achieve something, it doesn't mean that they have been able to make any progress. It could seem as though what they want to achieve is out of their reach.
Perhaps they have been trying to achieve something for months or maybe this has been going on for many years. Either way, experiencing life in this way is likely to be incredibly frustrating.
For Example
One may have the desire to have a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable and/or they might want to move forward in their career. Being stuck when it comes to one area of their life will be enough, let alone being stuck in two areas.
There may even be many other areas of their life that are not working; in this case, their whole life will have come to a standstill. They will then have the need to change their whole life, but this won't have been possible so far.
External Feedback
If one was to open up to a friend about what is going on for them, they may end up being told that that they need to work on their self-esteem. The reason why they haven't been able to move forward will be due to the fact that they don't value themselves.
Therefore, once they start to increase their self-esteem, they will gradually be able to move forward. One could accept this, believing that this is what they need to work on to be able to change their life.
Going Up
What one could then do is to look into what they need to do to increase their self-esteem. This could be a time when they will use affirmations and focus on their good traits, among other things.
After using these for a little while, one may find that they start to feel better about themselves. At the same time, one may find that even though they feel better about themselves, their life still doesn't change.
Going Down
If this was to take place, it is not going to be much of a surprise if one ends up seeing themselves as a victim. They will have done the right thing by increasing their self-esteem and yet, their life will be no different.
If one saw themselves as a victim before they took this route, they could go even further into this experience. Still, feeling helpless, hopeless and powerless, for instance, is going to be normal if one believes that they have no control over their life.
Beyond The Story
One could end up opening up to another friend about what they are going through and this friend could come out with something very different. They could say that another part of their being might not want their life.
They could make it clear that while there is one physical part of them, there is more than one part of them when it comes to their inner self. One is then going to be aware of the part that wants to move forward, but they won't be aware of the part that doesn't.
Confusion
Upon hearing this, one could end up dismissing what their friend has come out with. One might believe that this friend doesn't know what they are talking about; if anything, they are delusional.
Then again, one may find that they can relate to what their friend has said, with them being aware of another part of them that doesn't want to move forward. This part of them can then be what is stopping them from transforming their life.
A Deeper Look
If they were to surrender to this part of them and to get in touch with how they feel, they may find that they no longer feel like an adult. It could be as if they have regressed to an earlier stage of their life.
Another way of looking at this would be to say that they are in touch with their inner child. Many, many years may have passed since they were a small child, but the small child that they once were will live within them.
A Different Experience
To the adult part of them, moving forward will be seen as something positive, but to the child part of them, moving forward will be seen as something negative. The child part of them could believe that their life would end up if anything was to change.
What this could illustrate is that one's early years were a time when they were abused and/or neglected. Not only would this have traumatised them, it would have also stopped them from being able to develop a sense of safety and trust.
One Need
Experiencing life in the same way is going to cause their adult self to suffer, but it will be what feels safe to their child self. The former will do what it can to change their life, while the latter will do what it can to keep it the same.
And what will be perfectly clear to them at this point, is that their child self has far more control than their adult self. Their child self will need to be on board with the changes that their adult self wants to make.
Awareness
The child part of them will most likely have a lot to say and it can carry a lot of pain that needs to be cried out. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
Someone like this will hold the space so that one can go where they wouldn't go by themselves. The truth is that the child part of them is not their enemy; it simply needs to be understood and gradually integrated into the rest of their being.
Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, two hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
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Tuesday, 10 September 2019
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