Showing posts with label mindfulness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mindfulness. Show all posts

Wednesday, 2 October 2019

Wherever You Go, Go With All Your Heart

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While world occasions are occurring at a confounding rate, an ever-increasing number of individuals are arousing to the requirement for positive change that speaks to the kindest parts of humankind. The call to appear every day as our best self In other words, wherever you go, run with your entire being.
Envision the confident effect in the event that we were to all focus on including more heart wherever we pass by expanding our consideration, sympathy and resistance of other's perspectives.
When we purposefully include heart wherever we go, we are decidedly affecting the lively condition around us. With each caring word verbally expressed and each sympathetic or minding activity, we add to co-making another world dependent on heart esteems that recuperate, and support others just as our self. To show delightfully what including heart can achieve, we need to impart to you a few anecdotes about individuals who are devoted to doing precisely that.
These people were respected for their empathetic and minding heart work, giving guide, solace, sanctuary and want to numerous around the globe. Adding more heart characteristics to an incredible majority associations and nature is something we can each do. It costs nothing, yet it is a standout among the most profitable commitments we can make for co-making a world we need our youngsters to live in.
The all out advancement of your identity and what you need and how you feel... is fundamental to accomplishing your objectives both in your own and expert life.
Once there used to be high ethics and morals in the working environment and the desires for your own life were private and non-comprehensive.
The fact of the matter is there is ought to be no contrast between our internal individual work and those of our expert achievement - our entire self is the thing that we ought to convey to work and what we ought to bring home-in the event that you need to be fruitful over the long haul the best practice is the least difficult truth: wherever you go, run with your entire existence.
In the event that you convey your entire self to work and you lead from your heart you will be bound to be the individual who minds more, shares more, sees more, says more, believes more, hears more and is loved more.
Bringing your entire heart and ceaselessly building up your own dominance is similarly as critical as authority development and initiative development is similarly as essential as hierarchical development every last bit of it matters- every last bit of it is interrelated.
Wherever you go, run with everything that is in you. Time and again we do things irresolutely, in light of the fact that we truly would prefer not to yet we feel committed here and there. Life is too short to even think about wasting time doing things that you are not energetic about.
You are basically killing time until you leave this world and not really exploiting the open doors that god is putting forth you. Put your heart into everything that you do and do it to the best of your capacity and you will lead a real existence loaded with wealth unimaginable regardless of whether you never accomplish material riches or acclaim and big name status.
Do what you cherish, invest energy going where you need to be and with those that you really care about, and be enthusiastic about everything that you do. When you do this your life will be full and you will be content regardless of where you end up.
Live with no excuses and dare to dream and make it happen. Life is what you make it.



Thursday, 26 September 2019

Mindfulness and Meditation

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WHAT EXACTLY IS MINDFULNESS?
Mindfulness is not just a way of thinking about others and their state of mind, but it can also be used a form of meditation. Using Mindfulness Meditation allows you to focus on the moment, becoming aware of your senses and what you are feeling right then and there. When you are able to focus just on that particular moment, there is no need to try to interpret things or make judgments about how you feel.
You are simply present.
If you have ever studied Eckhart Tolle or other spiritual teachers, you realize that the present moment is all that actually exists. The past no longer exists, and the future has not yet come. So focusing, being mindful, of the moment, can help you relax and eliminate stress.
Think about all the time we spend planning for, or worrying about the future, thinking negative thoughts about the past, worrying about all the things we need to do - pick up the kids from school, make dinner tonight, pay the bills, etc. All those things are draining and can even be exhausting. When you are able to be mindful, you are able to put those things away, and focus your attention on the present moment, which reduces your stress and anxiety. Mindfulness meditation can be very powerful!
WHY SHOULD I MEDITATE?
For years, spiritual teachers and their students have been practicing meditation, and espousing its benefits. Now, thanks to advances in modern science and medicine, there are actually many clinical trials that scientifically back up these claims. It is amazing that for hundreds of years people have known that meditation works, but there is always a certain percentage of the population that needs to know how and why before they will believe it.
There are so many studies now that provide empirical data as to the how and why of meditation, and its effects on the body and brain. Those studies are so diverse that they need to be in a separate article on their own. But suffice to say that the overall evidence of these studies show that meditation is effective for reducing stress, anxiety, pain, depression, and even a host of "medical" conditions and disease.
WHEN AND HOW OFTEN SHOULD I MEDITATE?
There is probably no such thing as too much meditation, especially if you are struggling with any of the issues previously mentioned. Studies have shown that there are certain times of day when meditation may be more effective than others. Those times are when the brain is emitting certain waves that enable it to be more receptive to suggestion and meditation. Books have been written on that topic alone, but for our purposes, for most people that time is before you go to bed, or right when you wake up in the morning. During those times your brain is emitting the proper waves and producing the proper chemical to allow the mist benefits from meditation. But as Dr. Joe Dispenza says, "There is no such thing as a bad meditation."
The best way to develop your mindfulness meditation routine is to practice, practice, practice. Do so, and you may be truly amazed with the results.
If you want to live life to the fullest, then http://www.divineconnectionsbyroxy.com can help! Roxanna Teeling is a Relationship Coach specializing in individuals, couples, and relationship issues. She not only has two mental health master's degrees and two undergraduate mental health degrees, but she is also a Certified Relationship Coach from the Tony Robbins/Claire Madanes training institute. Roxanna strives to help you address and improve the concerns you have individually, with families or as a couple, by implementing techniques that fit your goals and values. Visit http://www.divineconnectionsbyroxy.com for more!


Wednesday, 18 September 2019

Brain GYM and Reading

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My day began with taking a class on Brain Gym 101, led by Mari Miyoshi.
She is such a delight!
Brain Gym is this self-improvement technique discovered by Dr. Paul Dennison. It caught my attention because Dennison worked as a public-school teacher and reading specialist in the 1960s, researching more effective ways to help children and adults with learning difficulties. As a result, he came up with this technique.
It consists of 26 movements and works towards balancing your brain.
One of my absolute favourites was the sequence called PACE.
It begins with taking a sip of water, which nourishes your nervous system.
Sipping Water stands for E (Energy) in PACE.
BRAIN BUTTONS stand for C (Clear) in PACE.
Rest one hand over your navel. With the thumb and fingers of the other hand, feel for the two hollow areas under the collarbone, about one inch out from the canter of the chest. Rub these areas vigorously for 30 seconds. If you want to add an extra level of complexity, you can also look from left to right.
Why do we do it? This stimulates the carotid arteries which supply freshly oxygenated blood to the brain. They help re-establish directional messages from parts of the body to the brain, improving reading, writing, speaking and the ability to follow directions.
CROSS-CRAWL stands for A (Active) in PACE.
Standing up, "march" in place, alternately touching each hand to the opposite knee.
Continue during the course of four to eight complete, relaxed breaths.
Why do we do this? This exercise is wonderful for improving reading, listening, writing and memory. It co-ordinates the whole brain.
The last exercise in the sequence called Hook-Ups. It stands for P (Positive) in PACE.
Start by sitting in a chair, resting your left ankle on top of your right knee. Grasp your left ankle with your right hand and the ball of your right foot with your right hand. As you inhale, place your tongue flat against the roof of your mouth, about one-quarter of an inch behind your front teeth. Relax your tongue as you exhale. Close your eyes and rest in this posture for four to eight complete breaths.
Now uncross your legs, placing your feet flat on the floor. Lightly steeple the fingertips of both hands
together, as if you were enclosing a ball.
Keep your eyes closed as you continue to lift your tongue on the inhalation and lower it on the exhalation, relaxing in this position during the course of four to eight complete breaths.
This exercise connects the two hemispheres of the brain and strengthens the body's electrical energy, particularly in stressful environments such as offices. Reported benefits are increased vitality and improved self-esteem.
I plan to use this sequence to set the stage for learning and reading. It certainly had an energizing and soothing effect on my brain. I highly recommend the program!


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Monday, 16 September 2019

The Next Chapter Of Your Life Begins With The One You're Living Now

Something Of Benefit Also Comes With Its Problems
Are you always looking to the next chapter of your life because you're fed up with the one you're living now? You wouldn't be the only one since many people wait for things to improve because they are dissatisfied with the way things are. But how much of it is perception? Do things actually improve when life gets better? For example, those who win the lottery are worse off five to seven years later, according to statistics. Most of them squander their winnings and are in more debt than before they won the lottery. But how can this be? How can winning a large sum of money lead a person to be worse off than before? Financial experts believe they lack the financial skills to manage large sums of money and they spend frivolously because they are certain the money will not run out.
We may experience something similar if we believe getting what we want will make us happier. For instance, the two main problems people often face in coaching relate to finances and relationships. People are convinced when they have more money or a loving partner, their problems will vanish. Is this something you believe? I know I have. I wasn't aware that getting what I want also means getting what I don't want. What do I mean? There are two sides to a coin, meaning that something of benefit also comes with its problems. The key is to find balance and harmony in what we want and not over-complicate matters.
Therefore, attracting more money means having to give up something in order to earn it or learning to manage money more effectively. Similarly, having a fulfilling relationship has its downsides (which is favourable if you consider what you gain). That is, we must invest our time and energy to cultivate the relationship, otherwise our partner might not stay around for long. That is to say, when we are looking for a relationship, we are heavily invested in the process but we don't realise how much time and energy is required to sustain it. This is a desirable quality because anything worth building requires two people to invest their time and energy to create a strong foundation. Some people are not aware of what it requires to maintain and build a relationship and so they stop contributing to it at some point. They divest their energy and the relationship falls apart. I once heard a relationship counsellor suggest that people stay parked in relationships which is why it eventually ends.
Be Invested In The Life You Have Now
If we wish for the next chapter of our life to arrive, we must be aware of the problems that go with it. If we are not ready for what life will bring, we will lose what we gain. That is why the title of this article reads: The Next Chapter Of Your Life Begins With The One You're Living Now. What am I referring to? The life you're living now is the one you created, whether consciously or unconsciously. You attracted the conditions and even though it may be full of challenges and setbacks, there may be a reason for it. So wishing away the pain and disappointment means wishing away the personal growth that accompanies it. Some might say: "Tony, why would I want to attract health problems and a lack of money?" I don't know your particular situation but it is my experience people attract their life's conditions on an unconscious level because they haven't transformed their limiting beliefs with what they want. Does this make sense, insofar as your inner conflicts will make themselves visible in your reality until you reconcile them?
For example, if you unconsciously hold limiting beliefs of your unworthiness to attract a loving relationship, no matter how many dating sites you sign up to, you are bound to experience disappointment. I'm not suggesting everyone on dating sites will experience pain and heartache. There are many thousands of people who find a devoted partner every day because they are ready for it and have done the work to transform their limiting beliefs. Pain and disappointment can highlight areas of our life we must devote our attention to. It requires self-examination on why we are attracting those circumstances. For instance, a person with poor financial skills might attract unwanted financial conditions until they honour their self-worth. Perhaps they were brought up with a tough parent who criticised them. They may have adopted this belief which now shows up through their finances.
So what I'm trying to say is: until we recognise what is stopping us from attaining what we want, we will continue to attract undesirable conditions. We can change strategies and enlist the help of coaches, guides and mentors and some of it may work. However, if we are not committed to our personal growth, we will go back to our old ways eventually. It requires being invested in the life we have now. Your problems and challenges are the keys to your redemption. As the aphorism states: "The obstacle is the way." It is showing the exit off the freeway so you may experience better living conditions. But the price you must pay is doing the work to remove any unconscious impediments that stand in your way. With this in mind, I'd like you to give some thought to areas of your life where you feel held back. Write in your journal or diary how you may be unconsciously sabotaging yourself. What is the trade-off? What do you get by living these unconscious beliefs? Perhaps you prefer to remain safe in your comfort zone? Every belief serves a purpose, even ones that limit our potential. Ultimately, if we are constantly expecting the next chapter of our life to arrive without living the one we have now, we will attract situations that are not for our highest good.
Do you want to lead a remarkable life? Are you committed to taking action despite your fears and doubts? If so, download your FREE copy of my eBook NAVIGATE LIFE right now, and start your amazing journey of greatness today!


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Friday, 13 September 2019

Life Is a Treasure Hunt

Once upon a time there was an unusually optimistic little boy named Max. Max's parents were worried that he was actually incapable of seeing the world like a normal kid, so they decided to take him to a psychiatrist to see if she could talk some sense into him.
The psychiatrist was getting frustrated with Max's absolute refusal to perceive negativity and was ready to try anything. Christmas was coming and she made a wild suggestion to Max's parents. Instead of gifts this year, she encouraged them to fill the back yard with horse manure. Not knowing what else to do, his parents agreed.
On Christmas morning, they were shocked to see Max, instead of being horrified, actually shrieking with delight.
"Why are you so happy, Max?" his parents demanded. "Can't you see? With all this manure, there must be a pony here somewhere!"
This is an extreme example, to be sure, but I do strongly believe and continue to prove that:
Everything either IS a gift or it HAS a gift!
We all love the experiences that immediately feel like a gift - the financial windfall, the perfect job offer, the date with the wonderful someone. It's the other experiences - the ones that are masquerading as something unwanted - that require a shift in perception.
What if you truly believed that the very unwanted situation you are experiencing is actually a gift in disguise?
If you really believed there was a gift waiting for you, would you start looking for it? Would you make it fun? Would you turn it into a treasure hunt?
Everything changes when you align with this new perspective. You no longer give in to suffering and despair. You're too busy looking for and finding treasures!
Instead of responding from a low vibration:
*"Why me?"
*"I never get a break."
*"Why can't I ever get what I want?"
Maintain your power by sincerely asking:
*"What's the gift in this situation?"
*"What's perfect about this?"
*"What's the wonderful thing that will come of this?"
This is what the Buddhists call turning poison into medicine.
The Law of Attraction teaches that we attract what we focus on. If we give into a mindset of "life sucks," we will experience one sucky experience after another.
However, if we choose the mindset of "life is good!" and maintain the willingness to find the gift in everything, we will experience a steady stream of good times.
Life is a treasure hunt, so no matter what happens, let's focus all our resources on finding the treasure. And, like Max, we'll be happy and excited knowing there must be a pony here somewhere!
Everything either IS a gift or it HAS a gift!
Kate Corbin is a Law of Attraction Coach and the creator of Gold Star Coaching. Both her coaching practice and her three eBooks - "Dining at the Cosmic Cafe, How to Be and Do and Have Whatever You Desire;" "Manifesting from the Inside Out with the Law of Attraction;" and "Think and Grow Thin with the Law of Attraction" - are designed to empower you to truly live the life of your dreams. To contact Kate and download a free copy of her eBook "Magical Musings on the LOA," visit Gold Star Coaching.


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Sunday, 25 August 2019

Ten Steps To Personal Freedom

Most of us go through times in our lives when we learn to live inside self- imposed prisons of our own making and sometimes triggered by the way other people treat us. For instance, a low self-esteem can cripple our ability to function effectively and have an impact on the way we do life.
Social withdrawal and self-neglect can be outward signs of a low self-esteem and sometimes there are more serious consequences including eating disorders and depression. However, a surprising number of people don't think they are worth very much and spend a lot of time trying to bolster or change their perception of themselves by adapting their body image, going on crash diets, doing drugs and getting involved in heavy drinking. Most of us have become experts on how to use various coping mechanisms as an aid to survival, finding ways of covering up the way things really are.
Restraints placed upon us by those around us can also be debilitating factors in the way we live our lives. It's one thing to have a healthy sense of responsibility for the people around us, it's quite another thing to allow ourselves to be manipulated by others to the point where we feel imprisoned and trapped. A misinformed understanding of the unique value of every human being can have a huge impact on the way we live. If you don't believe you are unique and have a special place in this world with a special purpose to fulfil, then life can become quite pointless and under valued.
It's certainly true that a complicated family background and the way we were raised as children can have a long-term impact on our sense of self-worth, but we should not allow our past to dictate our future.
So here are my Ten Steps To Personal Freedom
1. Make an inventory of your life and count every blessing.
The old saying, "a pessimist sees the glass half empty; the optimist sees the glass half full and the engineer thinks that the glass is twice the size it should be," can be applied to the way we live our lives. Take time out to think about the good things in life, not the negative things. Focus on the positive. That doesn't mean we live in cloud cuckoo land and pretend that everything is OK when we know it isn't. It does mean that dwelling on the positive can have a profound effect on our attitude to life, relationships, love and life.
2. Create your own personal space and spend 10 minutes each day in silence
Mindfulness is becoming more and more popular because people are realising that in our frantic lives, we need time to be quiet and be refreshed in body, mind and spirit. Having time each day to relax and reflect can have a positive affect on our health and well-being.
3. Remember your value is counted in who you are, not what you do.
I was brought up with a conventional business diary and spent every waking moment trying to fill it with stuff. People too easily find their self-worth in what they do rather than in who they are. This is a big mistake and often the reason why people fall apart when the retire from working life. If other people only value you for what you do, they are not true friends.
4. Do not open the door to every opportunity that knocks.
If you are like me, you will have hundreds of files, eBooks, courses and business opportunities that you thought were a good idea at the time, but the reality is, you have never looked at most of them! Learning to be focussed enables you to be free from the shackles of endlessly striving after the next big thing, and never actually hitting the mark.
5. Get the right people around you in supportive partnerships.
If you mix with negative people who are always complaining and moaning about everything under the sun, that attitude will rub off on you too. That's no way to live your life. We are surrounded by bad stuff, things that can go wrong. But dwelling on these things will result in your life grinding to a halt and going nowhere.
6. Choose a mentor and speak about life and business once each month.
Find someone you can trust, and be ready for some mutual sharing of visions and dreams. This can be tremendously life-affirming, when you can find someone who relates to your aspirations for life and will encourage you to stay focussed and on the straight and narrow in order to reach your goals.
7. Set aside one clear day each week for relaxation.
It's built-in to the way we function most effectively as human beings. We need at least one day off each week, that way your working and activity time will be much more productive and fruitful.
8. Don't be afraid to fall in love - with the right person!
Love has become a dirty word in Western culture. It's been cheapened by endless Soap Opera's and "reality TV" shows. We so easily buy into the myth and end up in another self-imposed prison. However, finding love which is unconditional with someone who is your soul mate, is a wonderful thing. Many of us have been hurt by relationships that went wrong. And this can prevent us from trusting anyone again. Don't let negative experiences affect your openness for mutually loving relationships.
9. Set aside 10% of the money you earn for charity
Seriously! Giving money away to a reputable charity is hugely beneficial, not just for them! There is something very therapeutic about giving with a generous heart to those less fortunate than us. Not giving in a patronising way, but giving out of genuine care.
10. Go on a 2 week Short Term Mission Trip
If you feel trapped by life, take time out to go on a Short Term Mission Trip to a developing country. It will change your life. There are loads of opportunities out there, just make sure you choose a reputable mission agency, which will give you proper orientation training, ways to operate in a different culture with respect and sensitivity.
I could go on! But it's time to stop. Please read my other articles about self-help and life coaching.
Steve Flashman has had many years of experience as a Life Coach based not on theories and abstract ideas, but on his own life experience. He teaches strategies and techniques that will bring transformation to life, love and business. Life Coaching


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Friday, 23 August 2019

Boost Your Creativity Through Practicing Tantra

What does creativity have to do with Tantra? Tantra is a practice that connects us with our inherent creative energy by bringing awareness to our energetic body. There is a current that runs through us all the time and we can use it to fuel all facets of our life. Let's look a little deeper into this concept.
Ancient yogis used the term 'Kundalini' or 'life force' to describe the energy that flows through us. This energy is with us from the moment we are conceived until the time we leave this planet. It is inherently creative in nature since it literally creates life! The very act of conceiving a baby is creative. None of us would be here on this planet, reading this article, without this life-giving energy. Sexual energy, therefore, is life force energy. And through tantric practice we get to learn how to access our life force sexual energy, the essence of life, to imbue every aspect of ourselves.
There are two dimensions to sexual life force energy:
Dimension 1
The first dimension is the creative spark that fuels and sustains us through our entire life.
Dimension 2
The second dimension is pleasure that is built into sexual energy.
Stifling creative energy
Now, what happens when sexual energy is stifled or constricted? We lose access to our creative Self. This is what has been happening over the millennia - the shaming, guilting and making wrong of sexuality that results in being disconnected from a vital force within us.
We are seeing the results of this suppression today through the breakdown of our relationships as it shows up in the Catholic Church, for example, or thorough the #MeToo movement. When sexual energy is repressed, it tends to come out "sideways" in an unhealthy way such as through sexual abuse, assault, and harassment. From a young age people are told, "Don't go to your sexual energy. Don't touch yourself. Wait until you are married." As if suddenly the sexual energy will become available to you then.
Setting your creative self free
The reality is that your sexual energy has always been available to you from the moment you were born. We can feel very pleasurable as babies and children. The simple act of playing can be pleasurable, or even the gentle breeze blowing on your skin. All of this is considered in the range of sexual energy and sensing. But very few people have grown up in an environment that teaches sexual energy as a healthy, beautiful expression of self. Most people do not know how to have a healthy relationship with their sexual life force energy which is why all the breakdowns are occurring.
I remember that my dad called me a whore the first time I had intercourse at the age of 18. While I did not agree with him I was left with a sense of shame and feeling diminished as a woman. It took lots of self-discovery and work to reconnect with my life force energy so that I could learn to imbue my whole life - my health, my well-being, my work - with that wonderful creative essence.
Once I had access again to my creative energy I was able to get clear on what I wanted to dedicate my life to and what I had come for to do on this planet in the first place. Up until that point I had pursued a couple of different careers but not felt passion until I had done my own healing of my sexual wounding and had set myself free. Becoming a Tantra teacher was then the natural expression of my creative spark.
Once sexual life force energy is set free, we can use it to connect to and heal our body, heart and spirit. Then, we can channel this life giving energy throughout our physical and energetic body into our life's pursuits.
If you would like to learn more about how to access and channel your creative life force energy, go to TantraNova.com.
Dr. Elsbeth Meuth is the co-author of "Sexual Enlightenment: How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love and Intimacy." She is the co-founder and director of the TantraNova Institute in Chicago offering workshop retreats throughout North America, Europe and Australia. She co-produced the bestselling DVD Series Creating Intimacy & Love and was featured on Showtime's documentary series Sexual Healing and the Emmy Award-winning NBC show Starting Over.
Over the past decade, Elsbeth and her partner Freddy Zental have assisted thousands of couples and singles rekindle or expand their intimate and love life. http://www.TantraNova.com


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Thursday, 15 August 2019

Deal With Your Anger Issues

Have you ever seen a child eagerly awaiting their absentee parent who's coming to take them for a play date? When faced with the dawning realisation that the parent is not coming the child may become defensive or hurt, angrily crying that they hate that parent and wouldn't have gone with them anyway! Is that the truth?
Of course not, they're merely trying to cover up their disappointment and feelings of rejection in order to recover quickly and conceal their distress. Anger is often an alternative to crying or grief and can help us move forward from feeling vulnerable.
As an adult we hope to deal with our anger issues and move onto more effective ways of communicating our feelings. We start to see anger as an unhelpful, inelegant way of conveying our hurt or displeasure and quickly learn that it doesn't resolve matters. It often simply prevents us from moving on. Far better to learn to deal with emotive situations calmly and rationally, rather than let our feelings dictate and get the better of us.
When we find ourselves constantly resorting to anger, unable to deal well with conflict or disappointment we need to concern ourselves with finding other ways to resolve and sort out our anger issues.
Anger can manifest itself in several ways.
We can be angry with ourselves, feel unworthy, unattractive, unintelligent and follow through with damaging, destructive behaviour like self-harm, bad habits, negative self-talk, so ruining any chance of success with our manner, attitude and approach. People with serious self-anger issues may set themselves gruelling challenges, never feel they've achieved enough or in the right way. Then they punish themselves further with a binge, purge or self-discipline regime.
- Other people can provoke our anger if we feel 'it's all right for them'! In those instances other people may be seen as especially gifted, advantaged or lucky, thus meaning that they have better or unfair chances of good fortune.
- We can be angry at situations and blame our circumstances for our lack of success; they're the reason things don't work out well. You'll hear, 'it's not fair', 'if only', 'I can't start until that's sorted'.
- Inanimate objects can bear the brunt of our anger too. People may kick, throw, stamp on and destroy objects due to their anger. Those items may even get the blame for things not working out!
Some tips to help you deal with your anger issues.
- Start to recognise the triggers, those situations where you find yourself losing control and becoming angry. Is it a look that you've received, a raised eyebrow, a shrug or smirk when you've spoken. Is it being ignored or not allowed to speak? Notice what sparks you off.
- Appreciate that others' reactions are not necessarily about you. There may be times when your behaviour, comment or body language affects the recipient in a provocative way. But we can never really know what's going on in someone else's mind or life. It's important to be respectful and allow all points of view to be heard.
- Ascertain the facts first. Stay calm and ask questions. Find out what's going on, what prompted their words or behaviour. Listen properly and with genuine interest. Avoid second-guessing, finishing their sentences or getting your reply ready before they've finished speaking.
- Respond rather than react. Consider each situation and what you want to achieve, what your desired outcome is. For example, if your car broke down on your way to an important meeting you could kick it, damage it in frustration but it wouldn't solve anything and seeing the damage afterwards would probably make you feel worse. Far better to stay calm and identify what needs to happen to remedy the situation as positively as possible.
- If a relationship is causing you anger issues you could suggest meeting to discuss them. Set a mutually convenient time. A public place can be good as it ensures communication remains civil in tone. Try to identify key areas of upset and own your feelings. Rather than accuse with, 'you make me feel', it's far better to prompt a discussion with, 'when this happens I feel'.
- Avoid lots of examples. They can hi-jack a conversation and rarely achieve anything useful, as you can get side-tracked. Examples seldom help to move the situation along.
- Alternatively writing a letter can be a good way to communicate your feelings. Take as long as necessary to process your thoughts so you're clear about what you want and need to say. It may take days or even weeks so that you're finally happy with the content and tone. This can be an effective way of dealing with someone who's disappeared from your life. Then when it's finished you can either mail it or have a ritual to signify that this phase of your life is finally over.
- A journal can equally be used to write down and work through angry and painful emotions, sometimes being kept in conjunction with counselling and hypnotherapy. Use effective methods to help you understand what the anger's about, what's been causing it. Those insights can improve your ability to communicate your feelings.
- Learning to communicate well can be a difficult process if good communications were not a part of your early years. Some families learned to keep quiet for fear of upsetting a volatile or easily upset family member. Or if a partner is perceived as being intelligent or eloquent, who twists whatever's said so that problems are your fault it can become easier to stay mute. But anger can then erupt as frustration, often over small and trivial things.
- Set your own boundaries in place so you protect yourself and are aware of what you will and won't tolerate. This allows you to gradually communicate how you feel effectively. You've learned not to inflame the situation, yet are able to be firm, fair and clear, keen to empathise and resolve any issues.
- Recognise the part that stress may play in your anger, your warning signs of being tired, irritable, not sleeping well. Let your partner know what you're going through. Good communications can play a major role in helping to deal with your anger issues. Let those closest support you at difficult times.
And remember, once said, things cannot be unsaid. They may be understood and even forgiven, but hurtful, angry words are often difficult to forget.
Susan Leigh, counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support.
She's author of 3 books, 'Dealing with Stress, Managing its Impact', '101 Days of Inspiration #tipoftheday' and 'Dealing with Death, Coping with the Pain', all on Amazon & with easy to read sections, tips and ideas to help you feel more positive about your life.
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Wednesday, 14 August 2019

How to Escape Stress Through Embodiment Practice

More on EMBODIMENT.
Between my first and second years of graduate school, I spent the summer teaching juggling and yoga for Supercamp. This was an innovative camp aimed at helping students discover joy in learning along with tools to enhance their education.
As for my own education, I was overwhelmed and felt out of my league. I was dreading going back to school with the endless requirements of reading and writing. I felt stressed out just thinking about it.
As the summer days faded, I sat on a beautiful deck looking up at the mountains of Kirkwood Meadows near Lake Tahoe with a friend. As I told him of my stress thinking about going back to school, he introduced me to the I Ching and suggested I "consult" it.
The guidance was simple, "MEDITATE." That consultation began my lifelong journey with meditation. Meditation is a form of resourcing, it increases our capacity to be here and now rather than there and then and so much more.
Nonetheless, my journey with meditation has evolved to include practices and processes that generally release the practitioner from long-held patterns while revealing states of awareness that are spacious and uncluttered. They also support the development of authentic CONFIDENCE and EASE of being.
The integration methods used by AAIT practitioners, act as a bi-directional arrow. They can address reactivity or install habits, qualities, and traits that will forward goals. This reactive and proactive attention is like a daily dip in the well, restoring and replenishing.
Below are practices ANYONE who knows how to Google can use to RESOURCE through EMBODIMENT:
  • - 3 Minute Breathing Space - this focused meditation comes from Mindfulness-Based Treatments for depression.
  • - Ho'oponopono - this collection of phrases can be repeated like a prayer or a mantra as you think of yourself or another. The traditional statements are "I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you." I add, "I forgive you."
  • - Metta - lovingkindness meditation is a luscious way to increase a feeling of connection and lovingkindness towards self and others.
  • - Exercise - regularly tending to our bodies with kind attention through exercise is a well-documented means of returning to the well and restore ourselves.
For AAIT practitioners and our clients, consider the creative application of the following methods for proactive resourcing:
  • - Basic PEAT
  • - Deep PEAT 4 - Golden Shadow
  • - Pair a Day
  • - Fingertip Method
  • - Integra Protocol
What else do you use to resource? AND what tips can you share that support the development of an embodiment home practice?


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Sunday, 11 August 2019

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How Hypnosis Can Help You Be More Outgoing

If you'd like to be more confident, charismatic and extraverted, then I have great news. Your personality stems from your brain and that's a flexible thing. You're not 'shy' - you have a set of learned habits and reactions to certain situations. And what you learn, you can unlearn. There's nothing in the rulebook that says you can't learn to be more outgoing.
There's a reason why you aren't as socially daring as you might like. It boils down to a fascinating property of the human brain:
Brains are funny.
And by funny, I mean stupid.
Consider:
Parties are fun. I don't care if you're an introvert - they're still fun. Unless you hang out with the wrong people. That's a different problem.
There's a social gathering and you don't feel like going. But you have to make an appearance, so you drag yourself there.
Ten minutes later, you're having the time of your life.
It doesn't always work out this way, but it often does.
What causes this? Well, it's a complex, personal thing. But I will say that, often, it's our minds trying to protect us.
Your mind is a capable guardian but sometimes it needs a little... correcting.
Yes, socialising sometimes has left you exhausted. Yes, connecting with people opens you to ridicule. And yes, these are things worth avoiding. I don't disagree with your inner mind on this.
But its so-called solution - to shut down all social interaction - isn't as good as the other solutions. When you have the powers of heightened intuition, incredible charisma and quick thinking, who needs to fear social interactions?
Your mind sometimes thinks it needs to. Does this make them naïve or wise?
Well, which way is the wind blowing?
In general, your mind is excellent at protecting you. Part of you constantly scans the world for physical danger. Another part searches for social dangers - ridicule, threats to your status, that sort of thing. These parts of you learn from your experiences. If you learn that being outgoing is too risky, then you're less likely to do it.
Unlearning things like this is easier than you think.
If you can imagine wooing a crowd of strangers, then you know how to do it. On some level you think, "If I smile like this and gesture like that, they'll go weak at the knees." But on the same level, you also think, "But I'd better not."
You can change that, if you want to. Your inner guardian can learn how to protect you from threats, not opportunities. It's the same process as learning anything else - know what you want, figure out how to do it and practice.
There's a shortcut, though. If you want to unlearn the old habits and really embrace a bolder personality, then hypnosis is like your brain going under the knife. A few snips and the unwanted thoughts dissolve. It operates at the level of your inner mind, speaking a language it understands.
A new world is waiting for you. It's on the other side of the moment where you turn your focus inwards.
Check out how:


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Friday, 9 August 2019

The Surprising Truth About Freedom | Natalie Sisson | TEDxRoyalTunbridgeWells

Ten Steps To Personal Freedom

Most of us go through times in our lives when we learn to live inside self- imposed prisons of our own making and sometimes triggered by the way other people treat us. For instance, a low self-esteem can cripple our ability to function effectively and have an impact on the way we do life.
Social withdrawal and self-neglect can be outward signs of a low self-esteem and sometimes there are more serious consequences including eating disorders and depression. However, a surprising number of people don't think they are worth very much and spend a lot of time trying to bolster or change their perception of themselves by adapting their body image, going on crash diets, doing drugs and getting involved in heavy drinking. Most of us have become experts on how to use various coping mechanisms as an aid to survival, finding ways of covering up the way things really are.
Restraints placed upon us by those around us can also be debilitating factors in the way we live our lives. It's one thing to have a healthy sense of responsibility for the people around us, it's quite another thing to allow ourselves to be manipulated by others to the point where we feel imprisoned and trapped. A misinformed understanding of the unique value of every human being can have a huge impact on the way we live. If you don't believe you are unique and have a special place in this world with a special purpose to fulfil, then life can become quite pointless and under valued.
It's certainly true that a complicated family background and the way we were raised as children can have a long-term impact on our sense of self-worth, but we should not allow our past to dictate our future.
So here are my Ten Steps To Personal Freedom
1. Make an inventory of your life and count every blessing.
The old saying, "a pessimist sees the glass half empty; the optimist sees the glass half full and the engineer thinks that the glass is twice the size it should be," can be applied to the way we live our lives. Take time out to think about the good things in life, not the negative things. Focus on the positive. That doesn't mean we live in cloud cuckoo land and pretend that everything is OK when we know it isn't. It does mean that dwelling on the positive can have a profound effect on our attitude to life, relationships, love and life.
2. Create your own personal space and spend 10 minutes each day in silence
Mindfulness is becoming more and more popular because people are realising that in our frantic lives, we need time to be quiet and be refreshed in body, mind and spirit. Having time each day to relax and reflect can have a positive affect on our health and well-being.
3. Remember your value is counted in who you are, not what you do.
I was brought up with a conventional business diary and spent every waking moment trying to fill it with stuff. People too easily find their self-worth in what they do rather than in who they are. This is a big mistake and often the reason why people fall apart when the retire from working life. If other people only value you for what you do, they are not true friends.
4. Do not open the door to every opportunity that knocks.
If you are like me, you will have hundreds of files, eBooks, courses and business opportunities that you thought were a good idea at the time, but the reality is, you have never looked at most of them! Learning to be focussed enables you to be free from the shackles of endlessly striving after the next big thing, and never actually hitting the mark.
5. Get the right people around you in supportive partnerships.
If you mix with negative people who are always complaining and moaning about everything under the sun, that attitude will rub off on you too. That's no way to live your life. We are surrounded by bad stuff, things that can go wrong. But dwelling on these things will result in your life grinding to a halt and going nowhere.
6. Choose a mentor and speak about life and business once each month.
Find someone you can trust, and be ready for some mutual sharing of visions and dreams. This can be tremendously life-affirming, when you can find someone who relates to your aspirations for life and will encourage you to stay focussed and on the straight and narrow in order to reach your goals.
7. Set aside one clear day each week for relaxation.
It's built-in to the way we function most effectively as human beings. We need at least one day off each week, that way your working and activity time will be much more productive and fruitful.
8. Don't be afraid to fall in love - with the right person!
Love has become a dirty word in Western culture. It's been cheapened by endless Soap Opera's and "reality TV" shows. We so easily buy into the myth and end up in another self-imposed prison. However, finding love which is unconditional with someone who is your soul mate, is a wonderful thing. Many of us have been hurt by relationships that went wrong. And this can prevent us from trusting anyone again. Don't let negative experiences affect your openness for mutually loving relationships.
9. Set aside 10% of the money you earn for charity
Seriously! Giving money away to a reputable charity is hugely beneficial, not just for them! There is something very therapeutic about giving with a generous heart to those less fortunate than us. Not giving in a patronising way, but giving out of genuine care.
10. Go on a 2 week Short Term Mission Trip
If you feel trapped by life, take time out to go on a Short Term Mission Trip to a developing country. It will change your life. There are loads of opportunities out there, just make sure you choose a reputable mission agency, which will give you proper orientation training, ways to operate in a different culture with respect and sensitivity.
I could go on! But it's time to stop. Please read my other articles about self-help and life coaching.
Steve Flashman has had many years of experience as a Life Coach based not on theories and abstract ideas, but on his own life experience. He teaches strategies and techniques that will bring transformation to life, love and business. Life Coaching


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Sunday, 4 August 2019

Unlock Your Life's Purpose With These Motivation Tips

Does it seem like it takes a lot of motivation to just take that first step of starting a new project, article or business venture? Are you unsure or confused as to what God's will or purpose is in your life?
There is so much more to life than living out each day and not having a purpose for that day. How many miraculous blessings have I missed throughout my life just squandering the days away and expecting to be blessed when I don't focus on God's will or purpose?
I love to write but sometimes my lack of motivation keeps me from my writing. When I am motivated, it gives me the will to create, be productive and achieve a sense of satisfaction. I actually get things accomplished, which in turn takes my inaction to action and I feel growth, and a feeling of significance and more power because of mastering my purpose in this life.
By excelling my motivation, I then have the opportunity to touch other people's lives by my writing and so it becomes the main focus of my life that I enjoy. When I learn to overcome being stuck and become motivated, I am living out my dream of spreading the word of God and His powerful influence in my life.
I have found that the results for living out God's plan for my life now opens the door for more blessings... how great is that?
You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36
The best way to stay motivated for whatever your life's purpose, is to not worry specifically what that is. The best thing to do is take action! Create a schedule that is realistic and stick to it. Do God's will and it will happen naturally and in His timing as shown:
" For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Jeremiah 29:11.
Your schedule will be something similar to this depending on your God-given talent or area of interest:
Every day is a great opportunity to:
Start off the day with prayer. Read the Bible and or listen to a recorded Christian radio show. My favorite is Intouch.org with Charles Stanley. The online radio broadcast lasts about twenty minutes. After dinner, read the Bible and do Bible study. If there is a church service today, it's good to attend and co-mingle with other people of faith and learn more about His word. Volunteer for help needed when you feel the Holy Spirit prompting you.
Day One:
Reach out to friends and relatives that are not saved and have a friendly conversation. Tell them about what great things God has done for you and is presently doing in your life, and lead them to Christ.
Day Two:
Write an article or work on your particular project and donate something or time to charity.
Day Three:
Do marketing for articles and or products and submit articles to other Christian blogs and social media. Also posting comments on blogs or forums with the related website link will allow for more exposure.
Rinse and Repeat! Now there may be some days where you need to work overtime or a big event comes up and some things need to be moved around. Being there for your family also is a huge priority. Raise your children with more attention and Godly discipline and you will have fewer worries when they are grown!
Another way to achieve even more motivation is to be aware that the days are short and you never know when you may run out of time to fulfill God's will.
Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away. James 4:14
Do as much as you can weekly and record your daily accomplishments. Add extra or different Godly activities that fit your life. Review them weekly and see if you are staying motivated for God's Kingdom and watch how you soon will discover your life's purpose!
~Verona
Verona loves to encourage others with her Biblical writing about motivation and finding our purpose in life. See more of her writing at http://www.praiseblogs.com


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Saturday, 3 August 2019

Never give up, don't quit

Why Quality Leaders Never GIVE Up?

Although, there are so many essential, necessary, important considerations, in becoming a quality, meaningful, effective leader, one of the most important, which is too often, overlooked, is persistence! Often, it is merely, a matter of, which individual, is willing to persist, and persevere, when others, GIVE up, which differentiates the best leaders, from the rest, of the pack! There will always be, some obstacles, which interfere with one's primary plan, and, one, will, either, be prepared, with a contingency plan, or let the obstacle, become a debilitating problem. Great leadership comes from transforming obstacles, to challenges, instead of problems! It takes, simply, considering the difference, between, how one perceives and conceives obstacles, and whether, he lets them, handle him, or decides to control them, in a proactive, transformational way! With that in mind, this article will attempt to, briefly, consider, examine, review, and discuss, using the mnemonic approach, what this means and represents, and why it matters.
1. Generate goodwill; growth; greater good: If a leader fails to generate goodwill, how will he be able to inspire and motivate others to follow? If they don't follow, the group won't consistently, undergo the growth, necessary, to remain strong, relevant, and sustainable! Instead of considering the reasons to settle for less, one should focus on, the best course, to achieve the greater good!
2. Ideas; innovate; imagine; insecurities; instincts; insights: One must be willing to overcome any personal insecurities, and expand the limitations of his self - imposed, comfort zone! To do so, he must be able to imagine, what should be, and innovate, in order to implement, well - considered ideas! Great leaders develop the instincts, and have the insights, to proceed, forward, in a relevant, sustainable way!
3. Vision; vitality; value; values: Measure the quality, and meaning of one's vital, vibrant leader, by whether, it inspires and motivates others, with a sense of vitality, etc! A great leader delivers, both, meaningful, essential value, which aligns with the values of his group, and constituents!
4. Empathy; emphasis; energy/ energize; endurance; excellence: Becoming a better leader, begins with effectively, listening, and learning, from every conversation, and experience, in order to expend his emphasis, where it will energize others, in a positive way! Will you have the degree of personal energy, which enhances your endurance, so you continue, to pursue, what's needed and necessary, with the utmost degree of your personal excellence?
If you want to make a real difference, for the better, you must persist, and never GIVE up! Are you, ready, willing, and up, to the task?
Richard has owned businesses, been a COO, CEO, Director of Development, consultant, professionally run events, consulted to thousands of leaders, and conducted personal development seminars, for 4 decades. Rich has written three books and thousands of articles. His company, PLAN2LEAD, LLC has an informative website http://plan2lead.net and Plan2lead can also be followed on Facebook http://facebook.com/Plan2lead


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