Therapy: Why Don't Some People Heal?

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There are, of course, a number of reasons as to why someone would end up having therapy or working with a healer. For example, they could be in a position where they have mental and emotional problems, their relationships might not be going as they want them to go and/or they may have only been able to get so far in life.

No matter what is going on for them, they would have done the right thing by reaching out for support. Simply tolerating what they are going through and suffering in silence wouldn't have served them.

The First Step

During their first session, they will be able to open about what has been going on for them. Perhaps one has a rough idea as to why their life is the way it is or it could be a total mystery.

If it is a mystery, the therapist/healer may ask them a number of different questions in order to get a better idea of what is going on for them. This might be something that takes up most of the session or it might not take long at all.

One Challenge

So, let's say that one has mental and emotional problems; it could become clear that they have experienced trauma. This may have been something that they experienced in their adult life or it could go back even further.

Once this has become clear, they could end up working through what happened and start to integrate what took place. There can be the beliefs that need to be brought to the light and questioned and the emotional pain that needs to be processed, for instance.

Another Challenge

If ones relationships are not in a good way, what could gradually become clear is that they don't value themselves. Maybe their younger years were a time when they were not given the love that they needed.

After this has been established, this could be a time when they will look into the thoughts that they experience and the beliefs they are carrying. One can then start to change the thoughts that run through their mind and the beliefs that they have.

A Different Challenge

Then again, if one has only been able to get so far in life, it could also show that they don't value themselves. As with the case above, their early years may have been a time when they were not given the support and encouragement that they needed to develop in the right way.

After this has been discovered, they may also look into the thoughts that they have and what they believe. Changing both of these things, along with their behaviour can be the next thing that takes place.

A Straight Forward Process

Regardless of which of these challenges someone has, once they have started to work on what is taking place inside them, their life may begin to change. They will then have located what the blocks were and they will be doing what they need to do to work through them.

Thanks to how responsive they are to what is taking place, they might not need many sessions. They will have wanted to move forward and the fact that their life is changing will prove this.

Another Scenario

However, although someone can have the desire to change their life, it doesn't mean that their life will actually change. Thanks to having mental emotional problems, relationships problems or trouble moving forward in life, they will have reached out for support but, they may find that they only get so far

This can be a time when they will change their thoughts and beliefs, heal emotional wounds, and work through trauma, for instance. One will then be doing a number of things, and even have an endless amount of sessions, yet it will be as if they are not doing anything.

Confusion

As a result of this, one can end up experiencing fair amount of frustration and they can wonder if their life will ever change. If they felt powerless in the beginning, they could feel extremely powerless now.

At this stage, they might start to think about if someone or something out there is holding them back. They will want to move forward, so they will believe that what is going on doesn't have anything to do with them.

A Deeper Look

Now, while they will want their life to change, it doesn't mean that ever part of their being is on board with this. In other words, another part of them may believe that their survival would be put at risk if their life was to change.

What this comes down to is that the only way that one will be able to change their life is if they feel safe enough to do so. This means that they will have to feel safe at the core of their being; without this, they will only get so far.

Two Levels

Another way of looking at this would be to say that consciously they want one thing but unconsciously they want something else. Until their unconscious mind is on board with what their conscious mind wants, they won't be able to transform their life.

If they were able to take a step back and to connect with what it taking place at a deeper level, they may find that they have a fear of being harmed and/or abandoned. Experiencing life as they are will be painful, but changing their life will be seen as something that would be even more painful.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, it will be essential for them to gradually work through the trauma that is being held in their body. It could take a little while for this to take place, yet this will most likely be what liberates them.

What they fear will happen, if their life changes, is likely to be something that did happen when they were younger. Ultimately, the more integrated they become and the safer they feel in their own body, the easier it will be for them to change their life.

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Make Your Inner Critic Pay Rent

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I know plenty of people who struggle with meditation. They'll say something like it doesn't interest them, they can't sit still, or they gave it a go and it didn't work.

It might even be true.

But for many people, they don't like coming face-to-face with that voice inside your mind. You know the one I mean - the one that whispers horrible things to you about your looks, talents, successes, failures, prospects and worthiness to keep breathing.

The sorts of things you'd never say to another person, even your worst enemy.

It's always there, anticipating your mistakes, just waiting for the chance to laugh at you.

So if this voice, or the deeper well of anxiety and insecurity it comes from, won't leave you alone, then it's time to take control.

But you don't gain control by fighting it.

Think of this inner critic like a neighbouring kingdom... with an enormous army. Much stronger than yours. If you fight it head on, not only will it not work, but you'll hand it even more real estate and power.

How would you fight such an adversary?

With kindness and curiosity.

Don't think of these as soft. It takes real strength to say, with full kindness, "really? I don't think that's true - what makes you so sure?"

Especially to someone attacking you, and even if that someone is you.

These can give you control over the volume... or maybe its air supply. If you're patient, you can starve it out.

But you're right to not want to settle for that.

After all, I bet it's been hassling you for a long, long time. Driving it from its home - your head - is too good for it.

It's about time it compensated you for it.

Why shouldn't it? Should this, the worst tenant of all time, be allowed to live anywhere rent-free? Especially some real estate as valuable as your noggin?

Surely not.

Maybe it's time you demand your inner critic starts paying its share. And not just paying rent from now on, either. It owes you plenty of backpay, not to mention all the damages it needs to cover.

There's no need to evict it. Show it mercy, bring it into line and put it to work.

Because this voice sure is creative. It used to have fun concocting the worst-case scenarios for you.

So use that creativity. Make it devise best-case scenarios instead... with a plan to get there.

And you know it's persistent, so use that too.

If it wants to keep scrutinising your life, let it find the ways you're doing well. Allow it to offer constructive suggestions for improvement.

Heck, you can put a leash on the inner critic and walk it round the block if you want.

After all, it's yours. No one else can tell you what to do with it, not even that voice.

Silencing it frees up a surprising amount of mental resources. That alone makes you feel smarter, faster, cleaner and happier. When you turn those resources to your own needs, you feel even better.

You can begin that simple self-improvement technique now.

And enjoy its benefits for the rest of your life.

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Unconsciousness: A Wise Choice?

Recently, I was reading that most of our consciousness is under the surface of our conscious being. As in, our lives are mostly ran unconsciously, and consciousness has very little to do with it all except to be an irritant at time to the smooth running of those unconscious processes such as heartbeat, breathing and the like. Also, habits are more unconscious than anything. In fact, I can honestly say that consciousness is a small factor and unconscious habit is the largest factor there is in changing situations in life or keeping them going as they are.

Some of the greatest feats of genius in fact stem and are rooted from the unconscious levels upward. Sure, we seem to come up with the ideas consciously and work downward from that level, but the paradoxical is real: Ideas work from the conscious out, no more, not any less either.

Thomas Edison said that "ideas come from space", he's only half right. I will fill in the blanks with this one: Ideas come from space, and they are reverse engineered from there in reality. The fantasy is that the ideas are original to consciousness.

Without mincing words, in a way, I agree with Julian Jaynes's theory of consciousness that it originates from a certain way of using the brain, and is not organic, but, the deeper parts of consciousness are subconscious or unconscious energies that are deeper than that use of the brain that we call consciousness and they are organic, deeply organic right down to being the ultimate force of nature. I'll even say that those unconscious parts are the God levels of consciousness that really control everything, and that consciousness is the genuine tip of the iceberg in it all, although it may seem to some to be the other way around about that.

So, I will answer to an extent, the rhetorical question I posed in the title. Total unconsciousness of habit is not a wise choice, and consciousness does fill in the gaps left by that unconsciousness. But to be useful, the consciousness must harmonize with the unconscious levels to really work for us in beneficial ways. After all, going against nature, and thinking that consciousness is independent from nature could be the most destructive way to live. After all, what do you think I understood my Dad to really mean by his pet saying: "Scientist, if you can take the place of God, create me some dirt from 'pure scratch'."

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Mindfulness and Meditation

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WHAT EXACTLY IS MINDFULNESS?
Mindfulness is not just a way of thinking about others and their state of mind, but it can also be used a form of meditation. Using Mindfulness Meditation allows you to focus on the moment, becoming aware of your senses and what you are feeling right then and there. When you are able to focus just on that particular moment, there is no need to try to interpret things or make judgments about how you feel.

You are simply present.

If you have ever studied Eckhart Tolle or other spiritual teachers, you realize that the present moment is all that actually exists. The past no longer exists, and the future has not yet come. So focusing, being mindful, of the moment, can help you relax and eliminate stress.

Think about all the time we spend planning for, or worrying about the future, thinking negative thoughts about the past, worrying about all the things we need to do - pick up the kids from school, make dinner tonight, pay the bills, etc. All those things are draining and can even be exhausting. When you are able to be mindful, you are able to put those things away, and focus your attention on the present moment, which reduces your stress and anxiety. Mindfulness meditation can be very powerful!

WHY SHOULD I MEDITATE?
For years, spiritual teachers and their students have been practicing meditation, and espousing its benefits. Now, thanks to advances in modern science and medicine, there are actually many clinical trials that scientifically back up these claims. It is amazing that for hundreds of years people have known that meditation works, but there is always a certain percentage of the population that needs to know how and why before they will believe it.

There are so many studies now that provide empirical data as to the how and why of meditation, and its effects on the body and brain. Those studies are so diverse that they need to be in a separate article on their own. But suffice to say that the overall evidence of these studies show that meditation is effective for reducing stress, anxiety, pain, depression, and even a host of "medical" conditions and disease.

WHEN AND HOW OFTEN SHOULD I MEDITATE?
There is probably no such thing as too much meditation, especially if you are struggling with any of the issues previously mentioned. Studies have shown that there are certain times of day when meditation may be more effective than others. Those times are when the brain is emitting certain waves that enable it to be more receptive to suggestion and meditation. Books have been written on that topic alone, but for our purposes, for most people that time is before you go to bed, or right when you wake up in the morning. During those times your brain is emitting the proper waves and producing the proper chemical to allow the mist benefits from meditation. But as Dr. Joe Dispenza says, "There is no such thing as a bad meditation."

The best way to develop your mindfulness meditation routine is to practice, practice, practice. Do so, and you may be truly amazed with the results.

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How to Practice the Ultimate Skill

If you want to take your self-improvement to the next level...

(And, you know, if you're reading this then that's likely... )

... then there's one skill for you to learn first.

Why this one before anything else?

Well, there's no rule which says you have to do it this way.

But if you do, it'll save you a lot of bouncing around in the meantime.

Because it's the skill of learning.

Because some folk take self-improvement all too casually.

They read a book once a month... but don't do anything with it.

They go to the gym twice a week... without tracking their progress.

They play with language learning apps... and can't form a single useful sentence.

If that's your style, then you don't have to learn how to best learn. You're into growth for the fun of it, but not actual development.

For those of you who want to take this to the next level, you're going to want to figure out how. Because you could waste a lot of time and energy on inefficient projects.

You might not going to want to hear this. It's a harsh lesson in a way.

But you can't assume you're good enough at learning to achieve everything you want to.

Like everything else, learning is a skill. You might have some innate talent for it. Either way, if you don't train it hard and smart, you're not going to reach your potential.

So here's how you learn better:

Start with what you want to know. Put boundaries on it. Do you want to learn a language? If so, which one? Do you want to be fluent - to be mistaken for a native speaker? Or do you just want to tour the country without relying on English?

Then you want to figure out why.

Maybe you're curious about the topic.

Perhaps it's something that'll lead to a better job or a higher salary.

It could be you have a vision on how to change the world - if you have in your head the ultimate video game, then you'd better learn computer programming.

Once you know why, you move onto how.

How are you going to learn?

How are you going to practice? Because remember, learning isn't about reading or listening. It's about doing. It's about getting your hands dirty, making mistakes and forging deep connections in your mind.

And how are you going to check your progress?

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Then there's what.

The day to day tasks that build the skill.

Following from your why to your how to your what, you create a roadmap for learning. Follow it and you can't go too far wrong.

You can begin that simple self-improvement technique now.

And enjoy its benefits for the rest of your life.

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One Secret Of Hidden Fear That No One Talks About!

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Rita was sitting on her back porch watching the darkness of night creep softly into the heavens. She looked in wonderous awe as the stars began lighting up the sky while dancing with delight. The mountain air soothed her soul. Yet she couldn't find peace.

Reflecting on her past and The Mystery at West Samms, she once again asked God why did this happen?

Rita was desperate to learn the reason and her heart ached with despair. It just didn't make sense that she lost everything she owned to Phantoms of Identity Theft.

Twenty eight years of hard dedicated work along with one million dollars in secure investments, life insurance, bank accounts and lost credit vanished within two weeks. The pain of her 2004 tragedy haunted her.

Rita didn't quit after her loss, she turned her attention to the internet. She learned quickly that there were even more Phantoms with online businesses. What little money she had she invested in every business model she could find. Yet regardless of her hard work and long hours, she just couldn't create a steady flow of money.

Rita built thousands of down-line members and continued to lose because of greed with a few business owners. Moving on she found a global company with excellent reviews and great products. Building a huge down-line this time was easy. And she made money for eight months.

Until she received a call from the CEO of the company that she nor her down-line would receive any commissions. The company abruptly closed its doors and dismantled the business structure. She was devastated.

And this was only the beginning of that online journey, Rita had to rebuild that million dollar nest egg again. She had never intentionally hurt anyone; what kind of Karma is this she asked. Rita prayed daily for answers and received nothing. Her life ruined for what reason?

After the bliss of her evening with nature watching the stars dance in the heavens, Rita once again asked God why her life wasn't working in her favor. She closed her eyes and waited. This time fourteen years later her mind accepted the open door of truth. She recognized her fear. God answered her prayer.

Rita built her million dollar retirement because of the fear of living on social security. This driven fear not only created a loss, but continued that loss for years to come.

Now at the age of sixty-seven Rita was living on Social Security. Her emotional passion of fear created exactly what fear does, it manifested itself into her reality and didn't leave.

Do you have a deep seeded fear? If so, please read these words carefully. Emotions manifest what we feel, not what we want.

Our emotions create our success or failure in life. Our subconscious mind totally believes what our conscious mind tells us. In Rita's life her emotional fear of living on Social Security was real and that's exactly what her subconscious mind brought to her.

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Brain GYM and Reading

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My day began with taking a class on Brain Gym 101, led by Mari Miyoshi.

She is such a delight!

Brain Gym is this self-improvement technique discovered by Dr. Paul Dennison. It caught my attention because Dennison worked as a public-school teacher and reading specialist in the 1960s, researching more effective ways to help children and adults with learning difficulties. As a result, he came up with this technique.

It consists of 26 movements and works towards balancing your brain.

One of my absolute favourites was the sequence called PACE.

It begins with taking a sip of water, which nourishes your nervous system.

Sipping Water stands for E (Energy) in PACE.

BRAIN BUTTONS stand for C (Clear) in PACE.

Rest one hand over your navel. With the thumb and fingers of the other hand, feel for the two hollow areas under the collarbone, about one inch out from the canter of the chest. Rub these areas vigorously for 30 seconds. If you want to add an extra level of complexity, you can also look from left to right.

Why do we do it? This stimulates the carotid arteries which supply freshly oxygenated blood to the brain. They help re-establish directional messages from parts of the body to the brain, improving reading, writing, speaking and the ability to follow directions.

CROSS-CRAWL stands for A (Active) in PACE.

Standing up, "march" in place, alternately touching each hand to the opposite knee.

Continue during the course of four to eight complete, relaxed breaths.

Why do we do this? This exercise is wonderful for improving reading, listening, writing and memory. It co-ordinates the whole brain.

The last exercise in the sequence called Hook-Ups. It stands for P (Positive) in PACE.

Start by sitting in a chair, resting your left ankle on top of your right knee. Grasp your left ankle with your right hand and the ball of your right foot with your right hand. As you inhale, place your tongue flat against the roof of your mouth, about one-quarter of an inch behind your front teeth. Relax your tongue as you exhale. Close your eyes and rest in this posture for four to eight complete breaths.

Now uncross your legs, placing your feet flat on the floor. Lightly steeple the fingertips of both hands

together, as if you were enclosing a ball.

Keep your eyes closed as you continue to lift your tongue on the inhalation and lower it on the exhalation, relaxing in this position during the course of four to eight complete breaths.

This exercise connects the two hemispheres of the brain and strengthens the body's electrical energy, particularly in stressful environments such as offices. Reported benefits are increased vitality and improved self-esteem.

I plan to use this sequence to set the stage for learning and reading. It certainly had an energizing and soothing effect on my brain. I highly recommend the program!

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