Friday, 18 October 2019
Therapy: Why Don't Some People Heal?
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There are, of
course, a number of reasons as to why someone would end up having therapy or
working with a healer. For example, they could be in a position where they have
mental and emotional problems, their relationships might not be going as they
want them to go and/or they may have only been able to get so far in life.
No matter what is
going on for them, they would have done the right thing by reaching out for
support. Simply tolerating what they are going through and suffering in silence
wouldn't have served them.
The First Step
During their first
session, they will be able to open about what has been going on for them.
Perhaps one has a rough idea as to why their life is the way it is or it could
be a total mystery.
If it is a mystery,
the therapist/healer may ask them a number of different questions in order to
get a better idea of what is going on for them. This might be something that
takes up most of the session or it might not take long at all.
One Challenge
So, let's say that
one has mental and emotional problems; it could become clear that they have
experienced trauma. This may have been something that they experienced in their
adult life or it could go back even further.
Once this has
become clear, they could end up working through what happened and start to
integrate what took place. There can be the beliefs that need to be brought to
the light and questioned and the emotional pain that needs to be processed, for
instance.
Another Challenge
If ones
relationships are not in a good way, what could gradually become clear is that
they don't value themselves. Maybe their younger years were a time when they
were not given the love that they needed.
After this has been
established, this could be a time when they will look into the thoughts that
they experience and the beliefs they are carrying. One can then start to change
the thoughts that run through their mind and the beliefs that they have.
A Different Challenge
Then again, if one
has only been able to get so far in life, it could also show that they don't
value themselves. As with the case above, their early years may have been a
time when they were not given the support and encouragement that they needed to
develop in the right way.
After this has been
discovered, they may also look into the thoughts that they have and what they
believe. Changing both of these things, along with their behaviour can be the
next thing that takes place.
A Straight Forward Process
Regardless of which
of these challenges someone has, once they have started to work on what is
taking place inside them, their life may begin to change. They will then have
located what the blocks were and they will be doing what they need to do to
work through them.
Thanks to how
responsive they are to what is taking place, they might not need many sessions.
They will have wanted to move forward and the fact that their life is changing
will prove this.
Another Scenario
However, although
someone can have the desire to change their life, it doesn't mean that their
life will actually change. Thanks to having mental emotional problems,
relationships problems or trouble moving forward in life, they will have
reached out for support but, they may find that they only get so far
This can be a time
when they will change their thoughts and beliefs, heal emotional wounds, and
work through trauma, for instance. One will then be doing a number of things,
and even have an endless amount of sessions, yet it will be as if they are not doing
anything.
Confusion
As a result of
this, one can end up experiencing fair amount of frustration and they can
wonder if their life will ever change. If they felt powerless in the beginning,
they could feel extremely powerless now.
At this stage, they
might start to think about if someone or something out there is holding them
back. They will want to move forward, so they will believe that what is going
on doesn't have anything to do with them.
A Deeper Look
Now, while they
will want their life to change, it doesn't mean that ever part of their being
is on board with this. In other words, another part of them may believe that
their survival would be put at risk if their life was to change.
What this comes
down to is that the only way that one will be able to change their life is if
they feel safe enough to do so. This means that they will have to feel safe at
the core of their being; without this, they will only get so far.
Two Levels
Another way of
looking at this would be to say that consciously they want one thing but
unconsciously they want something else. Until their unconscious mind is on
board with what their conscious mind wants, they won't be able to transform
their life.
If they were able
to take a step back and to connect with what it taking place at a deeper level,
they may find that they have a fear of being harmed and/or abandoned.
Experiencing life as they are will be painful, but changing their life will be
seen as something that would be even more painful.
Awareness
If one can relate
to this, it will be essential for them to gradually work through the trauma
that is being held in their body. It could take a little while for this to take
place, yet this will most likely be what liberates them.
What they fear will
happen, if their life changes, is likely to be something that did happen when
they were younger. Ultimately, the more integrated they become and the safer
they feel in their own body, the easier it will be for them to change their
life.
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Wednesday, 9 October 2019
Make Your Inner Critic Pay Rent
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I know plenty of
people who struggle with meditation. They'll say something like it doesn't
interest them, they can't sit still, or they gave it a go and it didn't work.
It might even be
true.
But for many
people, they don't like coming face-to-face with that voice inside your mind.
You know the one I mean - the one that whispers horrible things to you about
your looks, talents, successes, failures, prospects and worthiness to keep
breathing.
The sorts of things
you'd never say to another person, even your worst enemy.
It's always there,
anticipating your mistakes, just waiting for the chance to laugh at you.
So if this voice,
or the deeper well of anxiety and insecurity it comes from, won't leave you
alone, then it's time to take control.
But you don't gain
control by fighting it.
Think of this inner
critic like a neighbouring kingdom... with an enormous army. Much stronger than
yours. If you fight it head on, not only will it not work, but you'll hand it
even more real estate and power.
How would you fight
such an adversary?
With kindness and
curiosity.
Don't think of
these as soft. It takes real strength to say, with full kindness, "really?
I don't think that's true - what makes you so sure?"
Especially to
someone attacking you, and even if that someone is you.
These can give you
control over the volume... or maybe its air supply. If you're patient, you can
starve it out.
But you're right to
not want to settle for that.
After all, I bet
it's been hassling you for a long, long time. Driving it from its home - your
head - is too good for it.
It's about time it
compensated you for it.
Why shouldn't it?
Should this, the worst tenant of all time, be allowed to live anywhere
rent-free? Especially some real estate as valuable as your noggin?
Surely not.
Maybe it's time you
demand your inner critic starts paying its share. And not just paying rent from
now on, either. It owes you plenty of backpay, not to mention all the damages
it needs to cover.
There's no need to
evict it. Show it mercy, bring it into line and put it to work.
Because this voice
sure is creative. It used to have fun concocting the worst-case scenarios for
you.
So use that
creativity. Make it devise best-case scenarios instead... with a plan to get
there.
And you know it's
persistent, so use that too.
If it wants to keep
scrutinising your life, let it find the ways you're doing well. Allow it to
offer constructive suggestions for improvement.
Heck, you can put a
leash on the inner critic and walk it round the block if you want.
After all, it's
yours. No one else can tell you what to do with it, not even that voice.
Silencing it frees
up a surprising amount of mental resources. That alone makes you feel smarter,
faster, cleaner and happier. When you turn those resources to your own needs,
you feel even better.
You can begin that
simple self-improvement technique now.
And enjoy its
benefits for the rest of your life.
If you really want
to take your mind to new places? To improve more you dreamed possible?
You might want to
read about this mind training program:
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Friday, 4 October 2019
Unconsciousness: A Wise Choice?
Recently, I was
reading that most of our consciousness is under the surface of our conscious
being. As in, our lives are mostly ran unconsciously, and consciousness has
very little to do with it all except to be an irritant at time to the smooth
running of those unconscious processes such as heartbeat, breathing and the
like. Also, habits are more unconscious than anything. In fact, I can honestly
say that consciousness is a small factor and unconscious habit is the largest
factor there is in changing situations in life or keeping them going as they
are.
Some of the
greatest feats of genius in fact stem and are rooted from the unconscious
levels upward. Sure, we seem to come up with the ideas consciously and work
downward from that level, but the paradoxical is real: Ideas work from the
conscious out, no more, not any less either.
Thomas Edison said
that "ideas come from space", he's only half right. I will fill in
the blanks with this one: Ideas come from space, and they are reverse
engineered from there in reality. The fantasy is that the ideas are original to
consciousness.
Without mincing
words, in a way, I agree with Julian Jaynes's theory of consciousness that it
originates from a certain way of using the brain, and is not organic, but, the
deeper parts of consciousness are subconscious or unconscious energies that are
deeper than that use of the brain that we call consciousness and they
are organic, deeply organic right down to being the ultimate force of
nature. I'll even say that those unconscious parts are the God levels of
consciousness that really control everything, and that consciousness is the genuine
tip of the iceberg in it all, although it may seem to some to be the other way
around about that.
So, I will answer
to an extent, the rhetorical question I posed in the title. Total
unconsciousness of habit is not a wise choice, and consciousness does fill in
the gaps left by that unconsciousness. But to be useful, the consciousness must
harmonize with the unconscious levels to really work for us in beneficial ways.
After all, going against nature, and thinking that consciousness is independent
from nature could be the most destructive way to live. After all, what do you
think I understood my Dad to really mean by his pet saying: "Scientist, if
you can take the place of God, create me some dirt from 'pure scratch'."
My name is Joshua
Clayton, I am a freelance writer based in Inglewood, California. I also write
under a few pen-names and aliases, but Joshua Clayton is my real name, and I
write by that for the most part now. I am a philosophical writer and objective
thinker and honest action taker. I also work at a senior center in Gardena,
California as my day job, among other things, but primarily I am a writer.
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Thursday, 3 October 2019
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